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***Warning: This is not a funny post, if you are looking for a laugh, please come back tomorrow.*** Today is the anniversary of the worst day of my life. Eight years ago today, my mother was killed. Now my mother was my best friend. Whenever I needed advice or someone to talk to, she was the person I called. I probably talked to her 5-6 times a day. She lived in New York and I lived in Connecticut so it got expensive. This was in the days before unlimited calling so my relationship with my mother cost quite a bit. But it was totally worth it. I completely respected my mother’s opinion. I could ask her about nearly anything and she had an answer. Someone of a different religion lost a loved one, what do I do? I am having a dinner party, what do you think of this menu? Libby is having weird symptoms, does she need to go to the doctor? My father was my first choice of advice for the business world, but my mother had everything else covered. She was the best cook I have ever met. She didn’t bake, but she could cook like nobody’s business. While she did have the occasional disaster (what cook doesn’t), most of what she made was awesome. She was also totally dedicated to Libby (Libby called her Mee Ma). My father died a year before Libby was born. It was a tough year for my mom, but Libby really seemed to pull her out of it. She was looking forward to living. She used to take off from work one day a week to come up to watch Libby while I worked. I tried to schedule my meetings on these days because she was totally the only person I could count on to show up and I trusted her with the most important thing in my life (my Libby). On January 6, 2001, my life changed forever. Most people remember 2001 for September 11th. By that time, I had already learned that the worst can happen and there is nothing you can do about it. I wasn’t as alarmed by the terrorist attacks because I had already lived through my own bad dream. We were planning to move, so Frank and I had gone out looking at houses a few towns away. We returned home because we were scheduled to attend a birthday party. As we pulled into the road, there were ambulances, police cars and pedestrians everywhere. In addition, there was a pickup truck with an attached snow plow parked in the middle of the street. I jumped out of the car to find out what had happened. Libby and my mom had been run over by the snow plow. The ambulance took Libby and I to the hospital and she was thoroughly checked. She had only one small single scratch. The police believe my mom used her body to protect Libby from the weight of the truck. My mother wasn’t as lucky. Her chest had been crushed and her back had been broken. She was pronounced dead at the hospital. Eight years ago today, I learned that the worst can absolutely happen to me. I also learned that the sentence for vehicular homicide is less than the sentence for possession of marijuana. That’s right, the man who killed her got a sentence of 3 months and only served 30 days. He had absolutely no regret except for how it would affect his family. Because of his lack of remorse, the court-ordered social worker recommended the maximum sentence. That was the 30 days in prison. In fact, he was here illegally and didn’t even get deported. Here is a photo of Libby and Mee Ma.
Mom, we miss you every single day. If you have stayed with me this far, don’t worry. Small Town Mommy will be back tomorrow as usual, with the minutia and fun that you have learned to expect.
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Posted on 05:31, January 6th, 2009 by 
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I’m so sorry for your loss. It must be hard to speak of her even now. The killer got away with a light sentence.
I was pretty shocked reading this. I cannot imagine how you must have felt at the time and still be feeling. Your story has opened up my eyes to what my mom must be feeling, because this is what happened to her mom (my granny) who saved my elder brother’s life when he was six – except it had been a streetcar.
sending you my heartfelt prayers…
I am so so sorry to read about this and for you and your family over your loss. I lost my father unexpectantly 10 years ago (he was only 53). What a precious photo of Libby and MeeMa. Thanks for sharing your story….may you be filled with memories, love and peace of your Mother.
oh dear. That is one of the worse things I’ve ever read. I am so sorry for your loss and certainly angered by the lack of accountability that the person who took your mother’s life was afforded.
What a horrible, horrible thing to have to deal with. I cannot imagine. What a complete ass that person was and I hope they wake up and realize how lucky they are they weren’t in jail for murder. Total ass!
What a horrible tragedy…My God…I can’t even imagine…
I am so sorry for your loss.
I am sorry to hear about your mom. Your mom is truly an angel for saving your daughter and not herself. My sympathies.
Oh my, I can’t even imagine what you had to go through that day and every day since. I am so sorry for your loss.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I am close to my mom also and can’t quite imagine not having her around to turn to.
~Jenny~
I am so sorry for your loss. I’m not even going to pretend to know what you went through. Jan 6 is my mom’s b-day, and thank you for reminding me not to take anything for granted. Your mom is a hero.
Wow, I am so sorry. I can’t even imagine what I would do if this happened to me. The story of how your mom saved your daughter, her grandaughter, is amazing. She is a hero.
thats really terrible and tragic, what a hero your mom was. I only grew up with a stepmom, but she died in 2001 also, She died in march 2001 and was shot to death in her own home, running from the shooter, who shot her dead in her bathtub. We both had crappy years then, huh
trisha
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:*-( I am so sorry. My mom died suddenly and she will have been gone 11 years this coming May. You have my prayers for peace. What an awesome woman your mother was. I cannot believe someone would not feel remorse for doing something like that. I wouldn’t be able to live with it. {{{{HUGS}}}}
Oh Anne. You’re a sweet woman, and a wonderful mama, and you have a humor that delights me. I’m sure that these wonderful traits came from your mother, and that I would have loved her.
This story breaks my heart, your mama wouldn’t have traded places with your sweet Libby for anything in the world. Thank you for showing us how amazing she really was.
You’re a good mama, Anne, she would be proud.
I’m so sorry for your loss. And what a mockery of justice that the snow plow operator got off with 3 months. I’m very close to my mom, too, and I know how I would feel if I were to lose her — especially in some stupid, senseless way like this.
Oh Anne, I’m so sorry to learn of this tragedy, I’m reading this for the first time. Your mom was truly an angel to be watching over Libby.
I am feeling your pain as this is the one month anniversary of my mother’s death. You have to believe in the positive- like your mother was Libby’s angel.
Take care.
I lost my Mom but due to cancer, we knew she was going to die. I do not know what I would have done if One day she was gone like yours. I am so sorry for you, and the court system does stink! Glad your daughter was saved. Hold on tightly to her. Your Mother was a true saint.
I have tears in my eyes, I’m so sorry you had to go through this. How awful. My husband lost his father in January 2001 as well. I can’t believe the guy’s sentence. Your mom was a real hero, though, saving your daughter!!!!
Oh I am so very sorry for your loss! Your Libby truly has a Guardian Angel forever! Your description of your mother is so very similar to my father and our relationship. He passed Dec. 1 2009 and I so miss all of his advice!
I cannot believe that the killer got off so easily, all I can say is that what goes around comes around in the end. ((hugs))
I believe that there are Angels here on Earth, waiting for the moment they are needed. I think on that day, your Mom was one of them.
Anne; There are never the right words but you know how deeply we feel for you and your beautiful family! Oh, how much we miss your Mom! I do believe she is still with you all of the time.
That is just sick. I’m so sorry. So sorry. What happened to your mom was completely unfair and just wrong. What happened to the man who committed such a horrid act is just sick. Disgusting. The lack of sentence makes this crime a double injustice.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I wish I shared a relationship like that with my mom. I don’t know why God makes the decisions He does…but I know you and Libby – and the world, it seems – were lucky to have had her. By keeping her memory alive, you are honoring her. All my hugs.
My deepest and most sincere condolences. I posted a worst day on one of blogs sometime back. But, I was wrong it wasn’t the worst; the worst was many months later when we lost Mom. She was not killed, and so I can’t say I know how you feel. I don’t. I do know Mom’s not been gone from us a year yet, and not a day goes by I don’t think of something I’d like to pick up the phone and tell her.
Hugs
Sandy
I don’t know what to say except to offer you my deepest condolences. My prayers are with you and your family. I’m sure she’s watching over you and Libby.
I am so sorry that this happened to you. I know how difficult it is to lose a loved one, especially when they didn’t leave naturally. May God bless you and yours.
I’m so sorry. I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m sorry for how it happened, and I’m sorry that he was not punished as he should have been… Thank you for sharing, and I hope that the act of sharing helps you in your healing process.